Jam (Wing) Wing Lowe 3/08/1926 - 18/07/2014

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LOWE, Wing. (Of Carterton). On 18th July 2014 aged 87 years.
Dearly loved husband of Yee Pun. Dearly loved father and father-in-law of David and Sue Lowe, father of Ping Lowe. Loved grandfather of Sam, Serena, Lawrence, Tania, Stevie and Lisa
In lieu of flowers a donation to the Kahukura Palliative Care Services, PO Box 96 Masterton 5840 or Hospice Wairarapa 59 Renall Street, Masterton 5810 would be appreciated and may be left in the chapel foyer.
A service for Wing will be held in The Richmond Chapel, Richmond Road Carterton on Saturday 26th July 2014 at 11.00pm followed by burial at the Clareville Lawn Cemetery.
Messages to the Lowe family C/- P.O. Box 185, Carterton 5743 or can be left on Wing’s tribute page at www.tributes.co.nz.



LOWE, Wing. On 18th July 2014 aged 87 years.
Loved brother-in-law of Mao Zone Ho. Loved uncle of Too Ka Ng and Edith Ng and family.

Richmond Funeral Home
(Peter and Jenny Giddens)
FDANZ Carterton

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Acknowledgement from the family

LOWE, Jam Wing (Wing)
Yee Pun, David & Sue, Ping and families wish to sincerely thank relatives, friends, neighbours and work colleagues who supported them in various ways during their loss of Wing.
We wish to sincerely thank: Doctor Terpstra and staff at Wairarapa Hospital; Wendy, Mary, Helen, Sue and Olivia from Kahukura Palliative Care; Mary-Claire, Anne, Maureen, Chrissy and Vicky and the Community Health team for their care; Pam Bailey for her thoughtful words and guidance; also thanks to Blair Josephs, Peter and Jenny Giddens and the team at Richmond Funeral Home, and all who travelled from near and far to be with us at this time.
We will always remember the comfort received from the lovely personal messages of sympathy, cards, letters, flowers, food, phone calls, tributes, and visits. Please accept this as a personal acknowledgement of our sincere appreciation.

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Peter & Wei Wei Wong
28/07/2014

To David and Sue & Family and to Mrs Lowe and Ping

We extend to you all our deepest sympathy on your loss.

David, your Dad like many of the early Chinese Settlers were brave and adventurous men who ventured far from their home land to seek their fortune and eventually a better future for their family settle here in New Zealand.
Ann Nielsen
26/07/2014

Sorry to hear of the death of your Dad.
We remember seeing him in the gardens in all weather.
May your memories be your comfort.
Murray & Ann Nielsen
CDC
25/07/2014

Condolences and sympathies to David, Ping and family.
Don and Ruth Hathaway
23/07/2014

Our sincere sympathy in your sad loss of your dad,may you have lots of happy memories to comfort you all in the days ahead.
Don and Ruth Hathaway, Judy and Lian xCarterton
Lian Hathaway
23/07/2014

Very sorry for your loss. Our condolence’s to you and your family. Our thoughts are with you. Lian Fogarty(nee Hathaway),Judy Walman (nee Hathaway) and Don and Ruth Hathaway.
Lyn Stevenson
23/07/2014

David & family,
We are very sad to learn of your dad's passing.
Barry & Lyn.

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Ceremony for Jam Wing Lowe
“Wing”

Gathering music - Silent Moon

Opening reading – “Remember”
We never lose the ones we love
For even when they’re gone,
Within the hearts of those who care
Their memory lingers on

To keep the memories alive
Don’t let them die.
Use them as a handrail through life
From this moment on

You will have sad times because we are all natural
And have lost someone we loved very much.
When this happens,
Think of a special time you had
And this will help to lift you up.

Your sorrow will be two fold –
Missing the person, and
Missing the joy of relationship

Welcome and introduction
Welcome to you all on this winter morning. My name is Pam Bailey and it is my privilege to be leading this ceremony as we gather here today to remember, and celebrate the life of Wing Lowe.

The event of death has a way of uniting us in a way that perhaps no other human experience does. It reminds us of the fragility of our relationships; it also reminds us of the special and unique way in which we relate to those special people who cross our pathways in life. And so, Wing’s death, for a time, demands that each of us put aside our daily chores to unite ourselves with everyone present here today – fellow mourners who share a common bond of love, care and respect for him.

One of the most important values in life is our relationships – Wing was important to each of you in different and special ways, the special people in his life – his beloved family, his extended family and his many friends and colleagues. Some of you have known him all your life; others of you have known him for shorter periods of time.

And so, we acknowledge those who were closest to Wing.
Lives which have been closely woven together cannot be separated without pain and so our thoughts today are particularly his wife, Yee Pun, his children David and Ping and David’s wife sue, and his precious grandchildren – Sam, Serene, Lawrence and Tania.

Today we will recall the experiences and the relationship we shared with Wing. As we celebrate his life today we can take satisfaction that Wing has been, and still is a part of our lives. His influence endures and will continue to endure in the unending consequences flowing from his character and deeds.
As we talk about Wing today and in the days and years to come, we will reminisce, laugh and cry. Eventually the times we grieve will grow further apart and shorter of duration. This does not mean that we will remember him less, our memories of him will simply become a little more manageable with the passing of time.

At the completion of this service you are warmly invited by the family to stay and share refreshments and fellowship with them, this will be followed by a graveside committal at the Clareville Lawn Cemetery.

Wing’s life story
Wing was born in China in 1927.

At the age of 30 he followed in his grandfather’s footsteps and embarked on a journey to other side of the world to settle in Greytown, NZ.

He left behind his wife Yee and his children David and Ping. Wanting to establish a better life for the time when they would be able to join him he worked alongside his grandfather in his market garden.

We can only imagine what it must have been for Wing back then, post World War Two times were difficult for everyone; he had little understanding of the English language and would have missed his family back in China.

“Brave Heart” would be a good name for Wing because he was brave to venture all this way and he has always been selfless in his love and affection for his family.

It wasn’t until 1971 that his wife and two children were finally able to join him – what a momentous occasion that must have been!

Wing continued to work hard in the market garden, often getting up at 2am to pick the potatoes and tomatoes – always at the back of his mind was the realisation that he was forging a more prosperous future for the next generation who did him proud in their choices. Because of Wing they had the opportunity to pursue there hopes and dreams through higher education.

For the last ten years of his life he has lived in a Granny flat at the back of David and Sue’s home in Carterton. Yee moved closer to town as she suffered from breathing difficulties and was especially affected by the pollen from the pine trees that grow on David’s land.

Not one to sit still and do nothing Wing cultivated some of the land into another market garden – he enjoyed toiling in the wide open spaces and producing fresh vegetables for his family and their friends.

He has always enjoyed driving his tractor around the property and stopping in the shade of a tree for a much welcome beer or two.

He liked to read and watch the Chinese channel on sky TV.

He managed to travel back to China twice to see his mum – it wasn’t easy to travel there in terms of money and length of time it took to get there. He missed not having regular contact with his mum but she was happy that he had a good and happy life back here in NZ.

He loved his grandchildren and was always interested in what was happening in their lives. Over the last few months he has insisted on the family getting together for a meal over in the Hutt.

As Wing’s health deteriorated David and Sue brought him to live in the house with them – this way they could see to his needs more easily. Sue lovingly prepared all his favourite foods.

Wing passed away at a quarter to eleven on the morning of the 18th of July at Wairarapa hospital and that night when David got up to use the toilet he happened to look at the clock and noted with amazement that it stopped at the time of Wings death. It started again when David came back to bed.

Sadly now his personal biography has come to an end but he will live on in our memories and he has left you, his dearly loved family, with the principals of love and caring for others.

Time of reflection – Bokyo with photos
We now put the spoken word to one side as we take this time to reflect on the relationship we had with Wing and how having known him has influenced our lives in some way as we watch photographic memories of his life.

Tributes – family and friends
Sam
Others

Words of comfort and farewell
As we make our last farewell to Wing, let us recall that he was ‘his own man’ - composed of the same mixture of inspiration and error, strength and weakness, laughter and sorrow as the rest of us.

For all the good he accomplished during his time with us, we give grateful thanks. For any mistakes he may have made, we offer our forgiveness and understanding.

We will each continue to hold symbols of Wing’s presence nearby, his qualities like his love, his friendship, his own brand of wisdom, his generosity and his good company. Above all let us keep Wing in our hearts and memories – ever grateful that he was amongst us.

Reading – “His journey’s just begun”
Don’t think of him as gone away, his journey’s just begun
Life holds so many facets this earth is only one…
Just think of him as resting, from the sorrows and the tears
In a place of warmth and comfort where there are no days and years.
Think of how he must be wishing that we could know today
How nothing but our sadness can really pass away.
And think of him as living in the hearts of those he touched…
For nothing loved is ever lost and he was loved so much.

Wing – if we can learn from your example
If we can live a little better for having known you
Then this will give continuing purpose to your life
And be a living memorial to you

Let we the living go forth with our memories into the future
Be strong and of good courage
And hold fast to that which is good

Recessional - A Water Lily

Graveside committal
I would like to begin this graveside committal with a reading entitled “This heritage” that speaks to us of what is left when our loved ones have gone, yet live on within our hearts and our memories forever…

They are not dead
Who leave us this great heritage of remembered joy
They still live in our hearts
In the happiness we knew
In the dreams we shared

They still breathe
In the lingering fragrance windblown from their favourite flowers
They still smile in the moonlight’s silver
And laugh in the sunlight’s sparkling gold

They still speak
In the echoes of words we’ve heard them say again and again

They still move
In the rhythm of waving grasses
In the dance of the tossing branches

They are not dead
Their memory is warm in our hearts
Comfort in our sorrow

They are not apart from us, but a part of us
For love is eternal
And those we love shall be with us throughout all eternity

Wing Lowe
In grief at your death,
But in gratitude for your life,
And for the privilege of sharing it with you,
We now tenderly and reverently commit your body to nature, grateful for the life that has been lived, and for all that life has meant to us.

Earth to earth
Ashes to ashes
Dust to dust
You are still who you always were and the essence of your love lives on
For such a love never dies
Rest in the hearts and minds of all you love
Know that you will never be forgotten

Let memories surround us - a word someone may say; will suddenly recapture a time, an hour, a day
That brings back as clearly as though he was still here
And fills us with the feelings that he is always near
For if we keep these moments, we will never be apart
And he will live forever, locked safely in your hearts

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